WHAT I CHOOSE DETERMINES MY PATH

March 21, 2016 BLOG, WRITER'S CIRCLE5

WHAT I CHOOSE

“What I choose” is a poem by author, Viga Boland, which was written for her second memoir, “Learning to Love Myself”. This memoir was a story about her recovery and self-discovery as someone worth of love after being sexually abused for over 13 years during her teen and early adult years. Viga wrote about that abuse in her first memoir, “No Tears for my Father”.

Healing after abuse such as Viga suffered takes a very long time. Some never fully heal. Viga was one of the luckier ones who went on to make a better life for herself by choosing to get away from her abuser and eventually choosing that she was far better than her abuser had led her to believer. Choosing to believe in herself and her strengths, choosing to seek happiness by closing a door on her past was tantamount to healing.

Why choose to live in darkness when one can live in light?

WHAT I CHOOSE

5 thoughts on “WHAT I CHOOSE DETERMINES MY PATH

  1. Daliah Husu

    March 30, 2016

    Very uplifting piece. Even after something so terrible as sexual abuse, one can choose to heal! Bravo! You chose to live the “now” rather than the dark past. Everyone who has suffered a traumatic experience has to remember that there is always a choice to be made because life continues thereafter.

    • Viga Boland

      March 30, 2016

      THank you for those kind words Daliah. I’m a huge believer in the power of the mind: we are what we think we are.

  2. Peggy Toney Horton

    September 23, 2016

    Lovely poem, Viga! You are to be admired for climbing out of the depths of despair to a place where you not only respect yourself, but also manage to give so much to others.
    I, too, am a great believer in the power of the mind, sometimes boring those around me by constantly reminding them, “Be careful what you think.” If you think good thoughts, good things are likely to happen. Bad thoughts, just the opposite. But I had to fight to learn how to live positively. My mother was the kind of person who, when told, “It’s a beautiful day!” she’d say, “Yeah, but it’s going to rain after while.”

  3. Nancy Gustafson

    November 15, 2016

    A beautiful poem with a meaningful message! I am always inspired by your “choices.” Thanks for sharing it, Viga. I couldn’t help but think about Peggy Toney Horton’s mother. It reminded me of an oriental culture that refuses to let anyone compliment their beautiful babies for fear the demons will hear and hurt the child. I suppose reminding oneself of the worst case scenario is a way of preparing for emotional crashes and disappointments.

    • Viga Boland

      November 15, 2016

      Thanks so much Nancy for revisiting the site and checking out an “old” entry. Very kind of you.

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