LET’S TALK WRITING #6
with Cheryl B. Evans, author of “I Promised Not To Tell”
I wish I could tell you that I always wanted to write, that since I was a little girl it was in me to be a great writer. The fact is that simply is not true. Yes, one of my favorite pastimes is reading. I have a home library full of non-fiction books but writing one of my own was not something I had ever planned to do.
It took something rather extraordinary to happen to bring me to a place when I wanted to write, rather I needed to write. Some call it a trigger, but it was my motivation, my inspiration. It was the day my youngest daughter told me the thing she needed most in the world was to be a boy. The impact that statement had on me was surreal. I began to document every step of our family’s journey for the days, months and years that followed until without even realizing it I had become a writer. The end result of all my writing was the book that I wished I had available to me when our story first began. While penning our story I allowed the pages to be filled with the most intimate and deeply personal details of what was happening to our family, believing my eyes would be the only eyes to ever see it.
Towards the end, I became acutely aware of the hardships many transgender people face and the families that are unwilling to accept a loved one who has come out as transgender. There was a need for others to know our story existed, a need to know they were not alone. The families turning their children away simply for being who they are needed support and guidance. They needed to be shown an example of unconditional love and a way to acceptance. The book I had written needed to be shared, to be published and with my son’s permission, it was. While I became an author by chance, it was not without purpose. My writing helped me, it healed me and now I pray it can help to heal others.
Today, my family is whole, healthy and happy. I write today so other family’s can come out the other site of their struggles to a place of acceptance and love. I write today to impact others in a meaningful way. One extraordinary event awakening in me something I never expected. It has fueled a new passion, a new desire from within and my intent now is to harness that and see where it takes me from here.
©Cheryl B. Evans
Note from Viga Boland: Cheryl has kindly supplied a couple of links to interviews with her about her book, “I Promised Not To Tell”. You will find those interviews here:
If you haven’t yet read Cheryl’s story, you will find my review of her book at this link on MEMOIRABILIA.
As always, Cheryl would be delighted to receive some feedback from YOU on her thoughts about writing. Just post your comments in the boxes provided toward the bottom of this page. Thanks for reading.